The Act of God

Its been quite a while since I have sat down to write something. But truly speaking there was nothing that came upto my mind until recently...
Forgiving is one of the greatest virtues of Human Kind. I truly believe that the act of forgiveness helps you to get free of the grudges and helps you to move on. However, it did not click me until recently that a kind person can give forgiveness if somebody asked for it; but forgiving somebody who has doesn't even realized his mistake, it takes much more than a kind person!

All my life, I had met 2 kinds of people : one who confront their mistake and asked for forgiveness and the other one who realize their mistake and drift apart to avoid confronting their mistakes. I had the strength to forgive both these kind of people. More than them, I did it for myself. I am the kind of girl who cannot hold any grudge in her heart. As it is my heart has some very important and blissful things to do rather than cry over what happened before. I have bad headaches and stomach churning until  I don't forgive anyone. I have to forgive everyone only then I can live peaceful life. I don't know how people can live with grudges all their life. I don't have that much energy nor that much time to spend on something I don't like!

However, I was faced with the greatest difficulty when I came across the third kind of people. People who don't realize their mistakes, they know they have hurt someone still they don't care to show up and ask for forgiveness. They don't even drift apart and pretend as if they were still my close friends as always!! How do you deal with such people? What heart does it take to forgive such people? Why do I even care to forgive such people? They don't deserve my forgiveness. They don't deserve to be my friends. They don't deserve to occupy my mind and torture me like this. So stupid but so true! They hurt me and then they linger in my head torturing me all the time. I know the only way to get them out of my head is to forgive them and move on. But then how can you forgive someone who has not asked for it? 

How can you possibly talk to them like nothing happened and pretend that everything is fine? I had decided to ignore them, not to talk to them and rather than they drifting apart, I move away from them. But it wasn't possible as we met everyday. Though I didn't talk to them, it didn't bother them. They didn't even care to ask nor did they have courtesy to come face-to-face and confront. It was the most difficult phase! I knew I had to forgive them but couldn't gather the courage and strength to do so. I knew I can never be friends with them again  but to be cordial with them I had to forgive them. I just didn't know how. How should I forgive them? I wasn't that kind person after all.


And then few days later, one quote caught my eyes which led to the solution. The quote was 

"People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered; Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives; Be kind anyway......

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God; It was never between you and them anyway."

That's it! It took me less than a minute to forgive all of them! The world changes around you, when you see it from a larger perspective. That's what happened then... I got the strength to forgive them. My heart was thankful for that. I know my heart was suffering the most during those days. In fact, I wanted to make it up to my heart. So, I took a good novel and read it to my heart. Its the one thing that my heart always love :) 

I realized that forgiveness is Act of God and you feel happy and at peace when you know you have the courage to perform the Act of God!